The Chief Executive Officer (CEO) of Northern Hibiscus, an online platform created to promote socio-economic life of women in northern Nigeria, has called for special training for couples before marriage, especially in Hausa society.
Speaking on “Barka da Hantsi”, a programme on Freedom Radio, 99.5 FM, monitored in Kano on Wednesday, Mrs Falke, a social media strategist and blogger, lamented the prevalence of divorce in Hausa society and domestic violence, which according to her, contributes to social vices in the communities.
Mrs Falke, a business strategist wondered why a lot of marriage get broken among Hausa people while the couple were in love with each other before the wedding, noting that special training and counselling should be introduced in order to check the prevalence of divorce.
“Both male and female should be steadfast to the etiquette of marriage. And even before the marriage, there should be special training and counselling for the couple in order to be acquainted with marital life.
“For instance, in Christianity, they hold special training for suitors, spanning for six months on several aspects of marriage. Unfortunately, we don’t practice this in our society. We just get married without counselling, training, nothing.
” My staff, who was getting married, had to be attending special counselling and training sessions on Saturdays. She said any bride that miss a single session, so her marriage would not hold in that week that she missed. So, we need to take the issue of marriage seriously in order to save our society,” she said.
Mrs Falke also called on women to stop being aggressively jealous when their husbands are planning to take another wife, advising them to put more effort in taking care of the husbands instead of expressing jealous that could result to the breakage of the marriage.
She also cautioned women against peeping husbands’ phones, saying “this act contributes to divorce. The best thing is to ignore his phone because as you peep in, you might see nasty things that would cause the end of your marriage, or be the beginning of problems with your husband.”
Mrs Falke, a philanthropist, also called for the establishment of special institute for marriage counselling in a bid to reduce the rate of divorce and domestic violence in Hausa society.